Somewhere along the pregnancy journey, things that could have driven me crazy started making me laugh. I can only imagine most women have their own list of funny tidbits, too.
1) You smell everything. Literally. They could replace drug dogs with pregnant women in the TSA lines. I feel like I have a superpower! But, the novelty of it quickly fades. I'm left smelling the dirty clothes in the laundry. Or what the neighbors are having for dinner. Matter-of-fact, I took Oscar to the vet because I was convinced I could smell a strange odor... They literally told me it was because I was pregnant, I was smelling odors that no one else would/could ever smell. For real?? Not fun. My husband is over the constant commentary. And it only gets stronger for me as the weeks go by.
2) Speaking of weeks, that's how we talk. We speak in weeks. "Oh, how many weeks are you?" Or, " I'm almost 34 weeks." I'm used to it now, but so strange at first. I'm constantly doing the math when people ask how far along I am. If you say 34 weeks to someone that has never been pregnant, you can see the calculator popping up in their heads dividing by 4. Then and only then do you get a reaction. OHHHH. You're 8 months. But, amongst the pregnant community and mothers (which is basically my girl squad minus two), we use week speak.
3) ANGLES AND OUTFITS. I definitely look ready to pop in some pictures, but from certain angles, it's not as shocking. Clothing can trick the eye, too.
4) I spent the majority of my life believing babies are formed in 9 months. That's wishful thinking. That would make the incubation time only 36 weeks. Full total term is 10 months. 40 weeks. Why the lies all these years? I don't know. The doctors go by the menstrual cycle, and that adds extra weeks, I guess. I can't tell you how many people on social media think they need to correct me when I've hashtagged #38weeks, or #39weekspregnant. Pretty funny.
5) Not every women gets "the line" down the middle of their belly. I don't have it. I feel cheated. I keep looking for my line! Will it come the last few days? I thought I saw it today, but it was just the indention my leggings left.
6) The body is miraculous. The uterus expands and stretches in ways that's hard to comprehend. With it comes these beautiful little lines for us to always remember this time...stretch marks. I've managed to keep them at bay for the most part, but they are starting to pop in in strange places... I thought they would just be on the tummy, but nooooo, they can creep up anywhere!
7) You might look like a MMA fighter (I Do) after flossing your tender gums. Who knew?? I discuss this in the People.com blog, too. I was incredibly worried during my first trimester from the intensity of the sensitivity. But, everyone will assure you it's fine. See your dentist often (insurance usually covers more than one visit during pregnancy) and smile through the blood. It's creepy. Note: it subsided in my second trimester, only to recently return toward the end of my pregnancy. Oh, joy.
8) I am currently discovering something I've never heard of before: back labor!? These intense back spasms!? How have I gone through life with my best friends having kids and I never heard of this. Lemme tell you how fun these are!
9) I've been told I will still look pregnant AFTER having the baby as the body transitions back to normal. I've learned the hard way not to ask women when they are due, just in case THEY JUST HAD THE BABY. I've also learned not to ask women if they are pregnant at all! Dylan Dreyer broke the pregnancy rule! On the TODAY show this morning she said to June Diane Raphael (from Netflix's GRACE AND FRANKIE), "You are clearly pregnant in real life." And June responded, "Noooo. I had dessert last night, but no! That's a little rude.... " Then said, "I choose to not ask people until there's a baby coming out of them."
I went through a long stage where I knew people wanted to ask if I were pregnant, but refrained. Sometimes I'd volunteer the info... but I have learned to not ask anyone until it is SO obvious, or until they volunteer the information. The funniest part was that June went on with the rest of the interview and never came clean!
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Funny Tidbits...When the baby is constantly moving, you can see the hands, the feet and butt pressing against you and you happen to be in a meeting and your colleagues notice from across the room. -RACHEL O.
YOU WILL GO THROUGH MONTHS OF FEELING PREGNANT BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY LOOK PREGNANT. THEN YOU GO THROUGH THE MAJORITY OF YOUR SECOND TRIMESTER WHERE PEOPLE ARE SCARED TO ASSUME YOU ARE PREGNANT, SO NO ONE WILL OPEN A DOOR, HOLD A DOOR, LET YOU CUT IN LINE AT THE BATHROOM, NONE OF IT. BY THE TIME YOU FINALLY GET THE "PERKS" OF PREGNANCY, IT'S ALMOST OVER. -SUSAN B.
Don't try to any hanky panky after your water breaks. You can get an infection and give it to the baby. Within 24 hours after water breaking, you will go into labor or the doctor will induce. - Alison J
(that last one is HILARIOUS to me. If I am seriously contemplating anything intimate after my water breaks...wow. I guess it happens?)
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This morning was a bit stressful trying to get my act together and get to an event on time being so pregnant and not sleeping well, but Step Up is worth it. I've been working with them for so many years, I wanted to attend their biggest event of the year, as long as I wasn't in labor. It's fun to see the young ladies all grown up now that I knew in the mentoring program when they were teens in high school years ago. And, it's a great excuse to get our girl squad together- and see other ladies I haven't seen in a while. Maybe it's just because I am pregnant, but it seemed like a good amount of women were styling their baby bumps today. And also maybe because I'm pregnant, it was an emotional day. But, I don't think so- the stories of these inspiring young women would be touching to anyone. There are several chapters of Step Up around the country. If you've been looking for an excellent way to give back, look no further. You'll meet intelligent, fabulous women in their mentoring program and be rewarded from the interactions with the Step Up girls.
So, now, I'm on my way home from the STEP UP Inspiration Awards timing my contractions in the car. Amy Davidson and Ali Fedotowsky (driving) start noticing my wincing.
"It's been fourteen minutes since your last one, Ash," Amy says calmly, but pointedly. I must totally be in denial. He can't come TODAY. RIGHT?? There's still too much to do! I don't think he's coming right now. I'm just over 39 weeks. How is it ALREADY TIME to TIME contractions?
I haven't packed my hospital bag. And we don't have a name set. And I still want to finish the nursery! And make sure the laundry is done. But, I also know no one is ever completely prepared. So, ready or not, he's coming soon! Of course, "soon" could be days away....
UPDATE: I went into full blown labor 3 days later!
How life changes quickly! I used to run into other actresses at auditions or events and we would swear to schedule a time to grab "lunch" or get "a drink soon." Now, we make plans to catch up over cookies and milk at a kid's event. Not even joking.
I've heard about this great charity, Milk and Bookies, since 2010 and wanted to get involved. Now that I'm a step-mom to Huck, the charity takes on a whole new meaning. He is almost four and really loves reading. (One of the requests the hostesses gave each guest at my shower was to bring a book as the "card"-- Huck has really been enjoying this creative, thoughtful idea.) This event inspires children to read as well as give back to those who may not have a library of cool, new books. You can purchase a book, sign a card to stick inside, and donate the book to less fortunate children. The organization inspires philanthropy at a very early age.
As we took in the story time space (well known faces and voices were scheduled to read books throughout the day- so cool of them to donate their time and creative energy), Huck got to meet literary characters roaming around. He was not clear on Where's Waldo (we will be reading the book soon!), but flipped out about meeting Captain Hook. Somehow, even wearing this dress, (which also comes in amazing colors for fall) I got roped into quite a few activities. Check out the website & get involved if you can. I'm only touching on a small tidbit of what this national organization accomplishes throughout the year. Happy Reading!
I've briefly talked about having an insta-family (and them having me!) on the blog here. It's everything I have prayed about for a long time: finding the right person for life and starting a family. And it's happening!! One prayer right after the other is being answered. I wouldn't have it any other way, but I must remind myself when there are kinks in the road... they were bound to happen.
For all intents and purposes, Joel and I are newlyweds. Most couples relish this time to ease into life together as one unit. Most couples take that first year or two of marriage to find out their spouses secret quirks... Most couples- well, I guess we're just not most couples. We're going through this phase on top of also being parents to Huck and this little baby that will arrive very soon. We take as much time for our relationship as we possibly can, but, as we all know, time is limited. Joel is wonderful. One thing I need to remember? All this change isn't just happening to me. It's a huge transition for the male counterpart. I try to see things from his perspective (when I remember to do so!), and not just from my 8 and a half months pregnant perspective. And, not to be outdone, this is a transition for Huck.
Huck keeps asking when the baby will get here. Last night, he approached me and touched my belly.
"Can you take him out of your tummy tomorrow? I want him to come see me play soccer this weekend," he requested.
"No, sweetheart, he probably won't come tomorrow. But, he'll be here soon."
“Do you know there will be three penises in this house?” he said matter-of-factly, almost as a warning, then continued, “and only one vagina.”
“Thank you for that information, Huckie.”
“You will be the only vagina,” he clarified.
So, we're all processing this transition.
I can only imagine how bringing a child into the world is a lot for any marriage, not to mention a new one. So, I'm trying to prepare for this newborn as best I can now in hopes of dodging some chaos once he arrives.
One thing I am trying to do beforehand to help the household run smoothly is get organized. I guess this is nothing new. Nesting is the age old concept. It comes instinctively at this stage of pregnancy, I would assume. I've never had a stronger urge to declutter and get organized. There is a good amount of baby gear coming in right now. What are your tips for preparation? And any sage advise for this transition? Luckily, I have a whole girl squad going through this stage of life, too, but love hearing a wide range of opinions.
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I'll never be able to express my gratitude for this day. Thank you to the hostesses, Kaley Cuoco and Marisa Coughlan. I was in shock from the get-go. Walking in, I wanted to cry-- it was like entering a safari-themed paradise. There are moments of life you just know you will never forget. This was one of mine.
Every woman's experience with pregnancy is different. I've had specific landmarks that transformed me emotionally along the way. There are the obvious brilliant moments: hearing the heartbeat for the first time, feeling the baby kick and seeing the 20 week ultrasound. Naturally, there are the moments that set you back emotionally, too. It's not all easy. Then, there's a landmark that ties it all together: the baby shower. Suddenly, you grasp this is happening. I'm really going to need nipple cream and gripe water and diapers and wipes! And here surrounding you are a village of loved ones that want to help celebrate that baby inside you and share their own tips with you.
It was fun to "show the bump.". I haven't been wearing super tight pieces during this pregnancy, so this was a shift in thinking for me. My dress definitely enhances the baby bump, but it is a baby shower, so no better time to do it. And although I went through several choices, I decided on blue by Seraphine Maternity.
Not only did I have my local friends' support, but friends and family flew in, too.
My Aunt Evie, Aunt Toni and Mom flew in from Texas. How amazing is this giraffe?
That cake pictured behind Steven Jang and me was zebra print inside when we cut it! The details!!
From left: Michele Bell (high school bestie), Kara Holden (friend for over 20 years!), Dylan Parker (another high school bestie), Alisa Brownlow Absmeier (another friend for over 20 years), new mom Amy Davidson, and fellow pregnant ladies Ali Fedotowsky and Lacey Chabert!
I tried hard to relish every moment... there were so many details to take in! As I enjoyed my favorite mocktail (hilariously, auto-correct keeps telling me that is not a real word) of Sprite, soda water and lime juice, I got to say hello to everyone that attended under a glorious tent sheltering us from the Southern California sun that afternoon. And when I say everyone, I'm including the giraffe and zebra that roamed the grounds on stilts. Even after we moved inside for High Tea, we got to watch them perform through the windows.
And no stone was left unturned. There were sentimental surprises throughout the day. Each guest was asked to write the baby a birthday message on custom notecards numbered with years of his life. The humorous tidbits or words of wisdom were sealed for him to open each year (and momma to cry, I'm sure!). Also, guests were asked to bring a book to start Baby Henricks's library collection, which his older brother, Huck, is already enjoying.
Also, I have to thank Michele Bell for organizing a pair of Rothy's flats for everyone to take home as a nod to my "seamless transition" into motherhood. How adorable! Not to mention comfortable.
The morning after the shower, I woke up wishing I could go back and freeze time. Even for just fifteen minutes! It went by so fast. That's when it hit me that this pregnancy is almost over. I pray everyday this baby will be healthy entering the world to start his own journey. But, God has given me this last bit of time to indulge in the process of taking care of him inside me. He is with me where ever I go. Never again will it be this way. I didn't understand when other women tried to tell me to enjoy the pregnancy. Embrace the changes. But, now I do. It's a miracle happening. And that morning after the shower, I realized I am going to miss it. I want to cherish these last weeks of carrying him. All the little frustrations of body aches and exhaustion... they will all be over soon. And he will be here.
What are you tips or notes of wisdom you would pass on to a friend at a baby shower? I would love to read them, so leave your comments.
If I ever worried starting a family later in life would be lonely, last weekend took those thoughts away completely. On Saturday, my sweet girlfriends, Kaley Cuoco and Marisa Coughlan, hosted a safari- themed high tea baby shower for me. (It was a wonderland- read post HERE) I'll be writing and posting about not only what an emotionally charged and memorable day it was, but also how this past weekend transformed my perspective on this stage in pregnancy.
Then, on Sunday, we celebrated Ali Fedotowsky's little BabyManno.